So I’m sitting on the roller coaster and the bar comes down. A. looks at me, her eyes wide, and she leans in to whisper, “Catherine, I kind of have to go to the bathroom.”
“Ha, well that’s terrible timing,” I say, hoping the need is fear-induced.
Suddenly we’re making the ascent, the boys looking back at us with big grins because they know how much I am about to scream. Most people are putting their arms up high in the air, getting ready for the zip, but I clutch the bar instead. This is only my second roller coaster ride, after all.
At the very top is a sign that reads “Absolutely No Standing,” and I barely have time to wonder why in the world they would need that sign before we are careening down the steep wooden coaster and I am screaming like a little girl.
Unlike the little girl sitting next to me. She barely makes a peep, just flings her arms around and looks at me once in a while to see how I’m doing.
I wonder for a minute why I do this to myself.
Why we do this to ourselves.
What is it about adrenaline that is so addicting?
Oh, right, it’s a brain-thing.
As we zip around the corners and I hear the wheels crunching and turning, I’m proud of myself for getting on. For allowing myself to be buckled in. For choosing to feel like my stomach was going to fly out of my mouth.
Because they’d begged me to go on the ride, and I knew for some reason this was important to them. They wanted to share the fun with me, I think, and a little bit of them wanted to hear me freak.
But it had a little bit to do with love, too.
I’ve been thinking about love a lot these days, as I ponder how best to love my family after I move, how to be a good friend, how to care for my students. This might sound far-fetched, but I was loving those kids by getting on that ride.
I was telling them making them happy was more important to me than not dying.
I was telling them that making myself uncomfortable was worth seeing joy in their eyes.
And most of all, I was showing them that sometimes you do things you wouldn’t normally do because you care.
I’m sure they aren’t thinking about this stuff at all – that they are just glad they’d convinced me to get in line and that there’s no turning back now.
But I still want to show them what it looks like to stare an old wooden roller coaster in the rickety rails and say:
Bring it.
It brings it. My ponytail falls out and my hair’s flying and we all stagger a little bit when we get off.
I didn’t die.
She looks at me with her big eyes and says, “Okay, now I really have to go to the bathroom.”